What if you could learn the secret superpower to getting what you want? Learn to use conscious connection–join us as Founder and Spiritual Director of Soul Language Jennifer Urezzio and I explore how to build an unshakable foundation so that you can create a sustainable legacy using conscious connection. Jennifer has a gift for making things simple, and in our conversation we cover:
- Why it’s important to not be “on” all the time
- What tools can help you (without outsmarting yourself)
- Why being connected is the foundation, even though that doesn’t mean that it’s all sun, hearts, roses, and Care Bears
- How to stop trying to control the universe and start understanding how to utilize your own energy
- How to increase understanding between what your soul is saying and what your humanness is hearing
- How setting your intention is part of being unshakable
- The first steps of breaking free of your conditioning and stepping into getting what you want
Today’s Guest
Jennifer Urezzio
Founder and Spiritual Director at Soul Language
Jennifer Urezzio is the founder of Soul Language – a paradigm that puts tangibility to Soul so a conscious connection can be established to enable crystal clear decisions for success. Jennifer is also a master intuitive and the author of two best-selling books. Currently, she has trained over 20 practitioners worldwide in Soul Language. At this time there are over 5,000 individuals all over the world connecting to their Soul Languages.
Jennifer has worked with and supported hundreds of successful, highly creative individuals with resolving blocks in their creative process so that new opportunities can be received and created.
Her clients consistently relate how Jennifer provides an environment where they feel safe to open up and be vulnerable. She helps them regain their strength and express their big purpose and mission. Jennifer has even been described as “liquid nitrogen” because she has the ability to see the core of possibilities within each individual’s energy field. She is a master at asking the soul-searching questions that allow individuals to understand and perceive new pathways of success and greatness in their lives.
In just one session clients report that new possibilities open up for them which allows them to express their creativity, stardom, and greatness in whole new ways to the world. Many of Jennifer’s client reviews can be found at: https://bit.ly/2Ec2MOd.
RESOURCES
FREE GIFT: https://www.soullanguage.us/sacredpractice/
Creating a Sacred Practice That Works
Why do we need a sacred practice? When we feel separate from our higher power, that separation shows up in our lives as lack, pain, and suffering. Participating in a daily sacred practice that fits who you are will allow you to create in a more powerful way, feel more at peace, and know that you are safe no matter what challenge may appear in your experience. As a spiritual renegade, your sacred practice needs to be flexible, fun and innovative like you.
episode transcription
Heather Clark
Welcome and thanks so much for joining us to unshakable being today we have Jennifer Urezzio. She is a master intuitive, and an author of two best selling books. She’s also the founder of Soul Language, which is this great paradigm that gives you this tangible way to create a conscious connection with your soul. So you can make crystal clear decisions for success. And she’s trained over 20 other practitioners worldwide in Soul language as well. And she is an all around wonderful human being. Jennifer, welcome to the show.
Jennifer Urezzio
Thank you so much. Thanks for the all around wonderful human being I appreciate it.
Heather Clark
It’s true. I speak nothing but the truth, Jennifer.
Jennifer Urezzio
Well, I appreciate it because today I’m not so sure I’m a good overall human
Heather Clark
Don’t we all have days like that though? It’s like, I think it’s important to not be on all the time.
Jennifer Urezzio
Oh my god, no, I know people would go insane and and when people are on all the time people see the cracks more. Because you’re trying to pull it all together and then you become, you know, the light kind of or the shadow or however you want to put it kind of sneaks its way through. I mean, you know, it’s Friday, I got up early to go to the grocery store, which is a whole thing now. Right? Yeah. And then I had to go to the dog store, which is another whole thing and I had to take the dog because it was early and she would bark and then she barks because we’re in the car too long. And now she’s put herself in her crate with the door open and is sleeping. But it’s been very tough day on both of us and in training. So no, we’ll extended playtime outside to you Give her that kind of release of energy. So, yeah, there are tough days. And I don’t think that being unshakable or being on this journey. If anyone thinks that there’s never going to be a challenge or a tough day, they can kind of just give that belief up now, because we’re human, and if you’re never, ever, ever have a tough day, then you’re lying to yourself, which isn’t a good thing.
Heather Clark
Exactly. It’s It’s like being unshakable doesn’t insulate you from all of the problems. It just gives you different tools to respond to them. And you can do it in a way that doesn’t pull you completely off your center. So, thanks for bringing that up. And yeah, it’s, for a lot of us. These are very stressful times, depending on when you’re listening to this recording. This is in late April in the middle of a pandemic.
Jennifer Urezzio
We ever come up with that sentence, right. Like what Yeah, I think that the reason why you want more tools is because you also can outsmart yourself, right? So you want to create that strong foundation, that strong connection with yourself, aka your soul and whatever you call your higher power. And then you want tools when you’re in a spiral that you can’t get out of, if I didn’t have all the tools that I’ve have, you know, the littlest thing 10 years ago used to bother me like it would just be way too much right? I would get angry at a drop of a hat. And that no longer happens because my there’s more love internally, I feel more worthy, more secure, more safe, more at peace internally. And then, you know, there’s day to day challenge and then you add a huge super World Challenge. And that’s a whole new ballgame about utilizing tools and really being in a new way very connected. That doesn’t mean that when we’re connected, it doesn’t mean that we, it’s all sun hearts and roses and Care Bears. What that means is that you have the ability, even if it’s a little seed always to find that place of home that place of knowing that you’re not alone.
Heather Clark
Absolutely, and I really love that. And another thing I just happen to know about you is you’re big on using the tools but not to make yourself wrong. Not to Okay, well, I can. I’m different from those other people that are freaking out because I’m using those tools like that.
Heather Clark
That is not helpful. That is a total spiritual bypass. And one of the things I love about you is you are not on board with that.
Jennifer Urezzio
Thank you. No, I’m not on board with that because that would just lead to crazy insane stuff. I think so often. People want to be on the spiritual path for the wrong reasons. And what I mean by that is, is they want to be closer to whatever they call their higher power in themselves. So they can jump over the pain. And that’s never going to work. We’re human. So the real reason is, is A) It feels good and B) because that knowing of that connection supports that foundation. That’s like earthquake foundations like that move and sway and you still feel safe. And it’s really to discover more of who you are so you can express it freely and experience more of the goodness on this planet and be more of who you are. So I think so often people want to be in touch with their intuition and be in touch with their, you know, essential nature, their soul They just want to know how the book ends. Well, I’m going to tell you that you’re never going to know that and that even when you have those big, amazing visions, there’s still freewill. And you really get to concentrate. And this is how we learn to be unshakable about what your next divinely inspired action is, both internally and externally. And you stop trying to control the universe, and you start understanding how to utilize your own energy, and how you want to add into the fabric of being in relationship with everything on this planet.
Heather Clark
Yes, absolutely. And what I like is that these are tools that are not I mean, I hate to use the word down and dirty because they’re also very high level and spiritual, but they’re like super practical. And I really like what you’re talking about. It’s wanting to use some of these types of tools almost as I call them, merit badgers, like people that are just checking the boxes like me, like, I’m such an old soul. I am such an old soul and oh, I have learned this modality and that modality. And I am a master at this and I do this like, and I’m always like, okay, that’s great. And so what, what are you doing with it? Like, how is that how are you shifting your life or other people’s lives? And there is a large group of people that no longer wish to have that conversation.
Jennifer Urezzio
Well, I think that you know, it’s, it’s the worthiness thing, right? And you like me, you can see where people are out of alignment right, where their humaneness isn’t really aligned with their what their soul is. expressing their soul is sending out their soul is disseminating, right or distributing. So we go, that feel so icky to us. I know, the more I know, the less I know. And just right. And I know that I’m really good at asking questions. And I know that I can help heal anyone. I give people some really great opportunities. And I’m lucky and honored that they take those opportunities and learn to transform their lives, internally and then externally. But at the end of the day, I know I’m on my own channel, and I know you’re on your own channel and everyone on this universe is on their own channel. Right? We’re only making cameo appearances on people’s channels and it’s really about how we want to and what we want to put into the relationship of our channel and everyone else’s channel and doing it with the greatest Have all in mind, which means when I’m doing something truly in my greatest good, I’m doing something in the greatest good of everyone on this planet, whether they realize it or not. And when I mean it’s not that they think that it’s the greatest good. What I mean is from knowing that their whole and complete and making that that decision based on wholeness and completeness, rather than separation fear, a quest for power, which you don’t really need to go out for a quest for power because you already have it. And all those wonderful things that humans do to that are a misunderstanding between what their soul is saying and what their humaneness is hearing.
Heather Clark
Love that and that alone that whole, am I making this decision from a place of whole and completeness or from separation because that that alone will change your whole life? Yeah.
Jennifer Urezzio
And it’s tricky, right? It’s tricky. So sometimes, you know
Jennifer Urezzio
You think you are and the key word is there think? And then other times, you know, you are and I think mostly the most conscious decisions are, are made in such harmony and with such ease, that we’re not really even conscious that we’re making a conscious decision. That’s also about really unconscious decisions as well. Right? Yeah. So you know, it’s really about how you want to play this, this game of existence, and playing it to the best of your ability with an open and receiving heart. And by being in tune with this thing we call soul in this thing we call divinity and I think there’s so much anger and fear in the world. There’s always been so much anger fear in the world, but now it’s really like it’s like a dust storm of anger and fear, right?
Heather Clark
Yeah, it’s all this problems that existed before. It’s just, we’re not busy and distracted from them now.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah. And now we have to really kind of go, okay. How do we want to create? change? Right? So and what’s our single part of it? What’s your part of it? What’s my part of it? And there’s a lot of blame and there’s a lot of anger and sometimes, you know, that also, especially for impacts can be really overwhelming. So, you know, I think part of being unshakable is really setting your intention. And, you know, we’ve been talking about setting our intention for I don’t know what 4050 years but really setting your energetic intention and clearing your energy and really practicing those sacred practices. And for people like me and you are renegades, and we can get bored easily. You need just to kind of update them and put different ones in the mix like I do with Roxy, the dog. So sometimes when she gets a new toy, she loves it for a day or two. And then, you know, she always needs a new toy. So now I’ve started hiding the toys. And so every once in a while, I’ll bring out an old toy because she hasn’t seen in a while it’s a new toy. And I think that’s also what we mean with sacred practice. So we don’t start to outsmart ourselves and really going internally, not doing it kind of with the mind, but really spending that internal landscape and creating from that place of, of wholeness, completeness, knowing that you’re one with everything. I mean, really seriously, if, if some people on the planet knew that they were one with everything, would they be making the decisions that they would be making?
Heather Clark
Exactly, and it’s kind of the difference. I was at a networking meeting one time and we were having a lunch discussion. And the leader of the meeting had asked a question. And my response was, well, it really depends. Do you want to be seen to be the leader? Or do you want to be the leader? So it’s kinda like, do you want to be seen to be connected? Or do you want to be connected? And that’s why I like when you share about making those internal shifts first, like activating it internally and then allowing it to filter into the external, and then you know, the first internal action. And then it’s an external action. Yeah, sometimes they
Jennifer Urezzio
happen at the same time. I didn’t mean to interrupt. Sometimes it’s like the chicken and the egg, right? Because we’ve been doing all of these little internal actions that we’re not fully aware of. And then it just seems like oh, well, this just appeared but it’s not there’s no such thing as an overnight transformation. Right. So it builds and builds and builds and some things on the external world, you know, are changed very quickly. They take hold very quickly. And some of the Internal stuff for the external world takes a little longer to manifest. And that’s okay. And I think so often when people aren’t demonstrating, which is manifestation on the external world, then they go back internally and go see I’m doing something wrong, there must be something wrong instead of going, Okay, so let’s have a conversation about what’s really going on here. Not from a place of judgment from but from a place of tweaking. And I think so often, there’s so much happening in the unseen, that we don’t count that because, and I get this, we want what we want. And we want it now because everything has to be instant. You know, I blame it on the guy who created the microwave. I do. I blame it on that guy. And I blame it on the guy that created the remote control. Those people screwed us because we’re so used to like Bang, bang, bang, bang and when things don’t work, happened that way, then we naturally assume something’s broken.
Heather Clark
When we get those messages everywhere, it’s not just from the microwaves of the world and the instance and all of that. It’s we’re conditioned, that things happen very quickly. And if they don’t happen very quickly, then we must have screwed it up.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah.
Heather Clark
And it’s breaking free of that conditioning can really shift everything, but it can be very challenging for people. Because I know you and I are in a lot of conversations like this. Like what is the depth of soul and what do you truly want? And are you Where are you choosing from a place of completeness or a place of incompleteness or wrongness? And it’s harder to find those conversations for some people. So how would How would you advise someone who’s just like I am in I want this, but currently, they’re surrounded by people who aren’t in that same conversation.
Jennifer Urezzio
I think the first step is to a start having the conversation with your soul and the divine. Then either there’s so much stuff out there now that you could listen to or you know, anything from audiobooks to YouTube, you know. And then we have this great thing called social media. And then you get to kind of choose those groups that are, as they say, like minded. And I think so often when we’re in that transformational space, we want everyone surrounding us to be in that transformational space. And then we do the thing called, well, I’m conscious and they’re not. And you can hear my role and that is not conscious. You know, so then you have to move into some deep acceptance. I think when people do that, with They’re really afraid of is I can’t maintain my consciousness with this person and so they need to change in order for me to be who I am. So, you know, the first thing is you have to profoundly accept accept everyone if you’re going to believe that you’re holding complete then you must treat everyone like their whole and complete. Yeah, try that. Yeah, right like that alone. Like, ready I’m going to curse screw gratitude. And I mean that with big law, like try the wholeness treating yourself and everyone like their whole incomplete. Try that because that alone will transform every aspect of your life. And it’s an it’s a huge spiritual practice that you could do for the rest of your life and not have to not pick up another, you know, kind of practice because that alone brings in all the other spiritual practice. His in laws.
Heather Clark
And it’s the difference between this is my consciousness merit badge I am conscious See, versus actually being conscious not instead of being seen to be conscious, you actually are conscious when you relate to yourself and others, like, okay, we’re all holding complete here. And, you know, listeners if you haven’t tried it, it’s super fun. Like it you know, the person, the checkout person at the grocery store just relate to them, like their whole and complete and you might not say anything different, you might not actually do anything different, but I promise you your experience will be
Jennifer Urezzio
different. Yeah. And the most important person in that equation is you. Right, so people will find it easier to treat the person at the checkout home with a wholeness and completeness. But notice how you and what you say to yourself, and what you do that is in direct conflict with wholeness and completeness. It’s kind of amazing.
Heather Clark
Absolutely. It is amazing. And it’s just, it’s just such a great tool. And I am actually very deeply curious about, tell me how you got into this space because it’s not like oh, you know, I am just I created soul language when I was five years old and I’ve been doing it my whole life. You’ve done a lot of other things, and I would love to hear your origin story.
Jennifer Urezzio
I wish it was kind of like Superman’s origin story, or Wonder Woman’s because that would have been really cool. So yeah, I started I started out as a photographer, I went to art school and when I got out of art school, and I think I went to art school because I wanted to create. I was I was always highly creative. So I want you to be creative and Artists, what I knew. So I went to school for photography because I couldn’t draw. I did nice stick figures, but and then I got to art school and I was like, Oh, I like to eat and I don’t want to do this. And it just seemed like such an impossible feat to take pictures all the time. And not only that, but it seems extremely vulnerable. And as I’m saying this, I’m kind of laughing. And so I got a job in a public relations firm. And my boss was pregnant, like six months into it. And they were like, here’s a pitch letter and here’s a media list. Go out and that was all they said, Go out and call people and talk about this pitch letter. That was all the training I got. And I got the first placement for the this new client and it was Better Homes and Gardens. Wow, yeah, I was hooked. And I really created my career based on generating placements or, you know, media stories for clients. And I wouldn’t write, because I was told as a kid, I was a bad writer. And so I really was like, No, I don’t do that. But I do this and I’m really good at it. So you’re gonna have to pay me like, big huge balls, like, incredible now that I think about it. And so I wound up working with my best friend. And at that point, I was really angry and I wasn’t allowed to talk to clients because I would tell them the truth. And I media loves me cuz I would tell them the truth. And so I was talking to this client, who was an international known coach and I had spent two hours counseling her on her relationship with her daughter. And at that time, I was really doing like a whole bunch of Bath and Body products. I was custom making Bath and Body products for people. And she ordered every product I had and thanked me when we got off the phone, oh my god. And then she fired us two weeks later. And Tom told poor Aaron that it was I was the reason why she was firing us because I didn’t understand who she was or her business. And I did I just saw behind the curtain and she couldn’t take that. And I said to Aaron, oh, this is gonna keep happening. So I think I’m in three months, I’m going to go freelance. And in between that I had met a woman that did something called hand analysis and I had that done. And she’s like, okay, so your life purpose is powerful healer and teacher of service in the spotlight and I was like, okay, that’s great, too. He resonates, what the hell do I do with that? Yeah.
Jennifer Urezzio
And so three months comes by and Aaron’s, like, okay, so you’re going to VLANs tomorrow, I was like, What are you? What are you talking about? Like, she goes, Oh, I made plans. She didn’t make plans. So I got that lovely push out of to the universe. And then that woman who did my hands invited me to speak at a conference that she was given. She’s like, there’s gonna be a bunch of speakers come speak about life purpose and essential oils. And I get there, and it’s just me and her. And I cut off the platform, and there are people lined up to talk to me, and I’m like, why? They’re like, Can you help me with this? Can you do that? And I was like, Yeah, I can do all of that. I don’t know how I know I can do it all but I can do it all. And at that conference, I heard the beginnings of what soul language is because I was asking really big questions like, Where are my people? Because I’m really mad. And I know I’m supposed to be like this big service. I know that there’s like, legacy in me, but what is it What do I do? And I got the answers. And I started kind of talking to the divine everyday for about two months. And before long, I had a paradigm of how to put tangibility, to soul about 107. So languages across three different categories. And I started identifying people. And I identified this woman who knew nothing about soul language knew nothing about the three different categories do nothing about the hundred and seven core energies of soul. And I said to her, okay, so one of your soul languages, its partner has that resonate with you? And she said, before I got on the phone, I asked myself, if Jennifer asked me what my soul language would be, what would it be? Because I wrote down the word partner. Now, Heather, you’ve known me a bunch of years.
Heather Clark
Mm hmm.
Jennifer Urezzio
I burst out hysterically crying.
Heather Clark
Yeah
Jennifer Urezzio
and for warrior energy that’s like, that’s like a tsunami. Like, that’s like poof, and she’s like, Oh, my God. Are you okay? I was like, yeah, you just told me I’m really not Crazy. And now we’re up to actually 30. So language practitioners, and yeah, and about 5000 or over, I can’t keep track anymore. identified people, so languages and we do businesses as well. And people really connect with it, they really it’s a living, breathing paradigm. So unlike enneagram, or Hand analysis, it grows in consciousness. So those definitions are always being updated. And energy comes in waves. So, you know, we’ll identify a bunch of prophets and that’s because that energy is transforming and changing our will identify, you know, a whole bunch of developers because that energy is transforming. And so our consciousness grows, so does own language and the definitions, and that’s kind of how I got here. And of course, it sounds like a straight line, but it it was like Mulholland Drive.
Heather Clark
That is absolutely glorious. I love how you started out photography, which is essentially a way of seeing the world. And it morphs through PR which is communicating to the world, but in that really concise way that you’ve got, which I love. And now it’s this relating to your soul because I, you know, listeners, as you may have guessed, I have had my soul languages identified in that of my business. And it is so helpful because it gives a different framework to relate to things. And it’s got different questions to ask myself that I maybe wouldn’t have thought of before. And it’s also kind of like when the person you were on the phone with was with her soul language of partner which she had pre identified that recognition. Oh my goodness, this is really solid. That’s one of the benefits. I have Found is okay, well, maybe I’m not nuts. Maybe it is okay that I suddenly know things. There’s no reason why I should know. And
Jennifer Urezzio
something it wasn’t like that at that time where she identified herself as a partner. There was no book, there was no access to the length, there was nothing that she could have read or seen that would have said partner. And I think that was the moment that was so kind of like, Whoa, freaky in a good way. And someone asked me the other day, they’re like, are you just in awe about, you know, how everything you’ve created? I mean, do you take a seat and go, Wow, and I go, No, not really, because it’s just, it’s just there, meaning it’s just who I am. So, which a lot of people don’t do and I think that’s also about what helps you to be unshakable is to pause and reflect about Whoa, look at everything I’ve created. Because we do a lot of reflecting about where we’ve fallen or where we failed or where we’re not good enough, right? I mean, if I asked anyone, okay, so tell me, you know, what’s your challenge? They’d be like, Oh, and if you go Okay, so tell me what you’re great at. Everyone gets like the deer in headlights like, you want me to talk about how good I am. Right? And so I think it’s key to do that. And, you know, I’m laughing at myself now, because, of course, I’ve created I’m content driven, right? So I created this whole tool called progress, gratitude. Hmm, maybe I should open it up and use it right, like a regular basis. So I think so often people are looking for the ways that that they’re shakable so they can fix themselves so they can be unshakable. What you get to do is feel that unshakable within you and allow that to guide you and when you fall down which you will fall down to understand that that’s not the end of you that that’s not your essential nature that that is not who you are. That that’s just an indication that you get to get up
Jennifer Urezzio
and try again.
Heather Clark
Exactly it and it’s, it’s like when you’re connected to that unshakable center. It’s not like, everything goes away. And in fact, there’s I work with clients who the vibe is sometimes if I could just solve all my problems, I would be safe. And it’s like, well, what if you were safe? Right? And then you simply responded to problems? And what if they aren’t actually problems? What if they’re, you know, as you begin to shift the perspective, it’s really unbelievably helpful for people to move forward, but it really requires enough solidness and yourself for it to be okay to even ask.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah, and here’s the thing, then something’s going Come along and your soul is going to say more and more and more. And you’re going to go through a whole thing where you feel like your giant Martini shaker. Right. So and then people go Oh, see, I’m you know, and then the process starts again. And I think that when people are having that kind of big transformational moment, there’s a lot of judgment around that because then they think they’ve again, they’re not unshakable you are, things are coming to the top so you can experience more of that feeling of wholeness and completeness within you. And, you know, it’s gonna come up again. You know, I would really, we don’t really hear this from gurus. You know, we don’t hear this from the Oprah’s and the Deepak Chopra’s and you know, I would really love to hear Deepak go you know what today? I feel like crap and here’s why. Like But they don’t, because that’s not their personas, right. And I think it’s important to be consciously transparent, to let people know that it’s okay to stumble and fall, you’ll get back up again there your whole incomplete, let’s tune into your soul. Let’s express your gifts more clearly. So you can get back to that being CORE Center. So you can, you know, express yourself freely because it feels great. And then offer your gifts and talents which are your bus pass to receiving in the world.
Heather Clark
Well that also attracts to you an audience that is willing to allow you to be vulnerable. If you’re being vulnerable. They’re willing to listen and go deeper. Because what I’ve noticed, at least in my social media feeds is people take something someone said and then they apply all of their own stuff to it. And didn’t actually hear what was being said and then use it to make that person wrong. So it’s kind of like in us in them, and then they’re safe. So, you know, perhaps, Deepak and Oprah and all the other people like that in the world don’t feel like their people could really receive that it’s okay for them to be vulnerable without them being like, Okay, well, I can’t follow them anymore.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah, I mean, I did. We could talk about this forever. I think, you know, people for the mass and they’re totally mass, right? It has to be a little Dick and Jane. Yeah. So I’m not for the mass. I support people who are for the mass in a bigger way. And I’m for people who are the renegade who are always going to be out front who are kind of explorers and who want to investigate their, their internal landscape to create something Bigger for themselves and for others. I’m for people that are here to create legacies and movements. And so, you know, it’s necessary for me to be consciously transparent for a number of reasons. But so they understand that, you know, holes are just a place where we have to fill with love. They’re not from a place of lack or place, we’re not enough. But when you’re kind of, like, I can see why Oprah doesn’t spill out her person, you know, because, you know, she, her message is very clear. And, you know, she’s a very top line kind of person, meaning, you know, she does, you know, she was going to teach about law of attraction, it would be, you know, the first layer, right? For people like me and you we’re, we’re like six or seven layers or more.
Heather Clark
And that’s what I like it you because there’s a lot of coaches and support people out there that can help someone build a legacy. But you’re talking about building a sustainable legacy. Oh yeah, your people if you’re going to show up and be vulnerable and honest and like, fully be you in the world that’s actually very sustainable. Once you get over how terrifying that is, at first, when you go to it,
Jennifer Urezzio
and I borrow sustainable legacy because I love it.
Heather Clark
Absolutely it came in for you.
Jennifer Urezzio
I can’t do the woohoo because the dog jazz hands,
Heather Clark
jazz hands. But But yeah, it’s like cuz you could sit down at you. Anybody could build a legacy. But the easy way to do it is by all the external actions. And that’s great until your soul goes and evolves and expresses itself differently and then all of that is going to fall away. So if everything you’re doing Is this expression of your soul? Good, bad and ugly, then that it’ll evolve with you. It’s instead of being fragile and glass like it’s well, I guess it would be then the unshakable way of being you. Yeah, definitely. And that’s very different. It. I don’t want to say it’s different. It’s, it’s easy to say. And then when you go to do it, like, Oh, crap, what if? What if people know that I melted down last night about whether we were going to have vegetables for dinner? Like that’s like, but I don’t think that makes me like, Oh, I shouldn’t teach about that. I think that makes me human. And then I was able to apply all the tools and go Okay, well, what’s really going on here? Oh, I see what’s happened. I’ve come unconnected with the knowledge that I’m holding complete and somehow am now using this against myself like, Okay, great, and then I can work through it. And a little bit of time, instead of No, no, everything’s fine. Sure, check out my merit badge. I’m good. Everything’s fine.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah, I love that that frame merit badge. I think it’s true. You know, I think that I think we’re we spend so much time trying to separate separate ourselves from others trying to prove our worth trying to feel like we have a place where if we just felt that I know where my places internally that would attract so much more and life would be so much easier.
Heather Clark
Absolutely. Yeah. And then it helps talk you back off the ledge of comparison itis as well. Like, no wait a minute, like, just because they’re having success that I’m happy about doesn’t mean there’s less for me. Oh, that’s right. Just keep reconnecting and then just use the tools.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah, I you know, I think that we compare ourselves because we’re so used to associating with people via pain, right? But we can’t compare ourselves to our gifts and talents if we truly understand them, because we’re everyone’s unique like so snowflake. Even if you have languages in common with someone you’re still unique like a snowflake. So it’s just all it’s all interesting. And when we keep that air of discovery,
Jennifer Urezzio
we
Jennifer Urezzio
we step out of feeling the need to make things happen.
Heather Clark
Cuz how much more relaxing would that be? If you no longer felt the need To make things happen
Jennifer Urezzio
yet well, when it finally happens in my life, I’ll let you know.
Heather Clark
Yeah, but just the thought of it. Maybe that’s just me. I just as I just even think about it, I like oh, like,
Jennifer Urezzio
right, like, when you’re on vacation.
Jennifer Urezzio
Most people when are they’re on vacation, they don’t have to make things happen, right? Like they just kind of go with the flow, right. So, you know, learning to if you just do one thing where you loosen the grip of control, that is going to create so much more opportunities for you because you’re not stiff arming the universe.
Heather Clark
Yeah, and it helps you be present because that’s, at least in my interesting point of view, part of being unshakable, the expression of unshakable is completely present and simply responding to the flow of life, not reacting to it. But that doesn’t mean it’s only response. It’s also choosing because the other thing that we do on vacation is we think about beforehand. Where would we like to go? And what would we like to do? Yeah, stay in the flow of it. Oh, well, we’re not going to be able to visit that Cathedral. Great. We’ll do this other thing. No big deal. Whereas it at home, in what people consider in real life. Oh, it’s not working. This is terrible. This is like, well, I don’t know. Maybe something else has opened up.
Jennifer Urezzio
Great. So we should all just act like we’re on vacation. I’m going to do that today.
Heather Clark
It’s, it’s super fun because I noticed that I forgot I was out of town for a conference or something. And as the plane came in to land on the runway here in Kansas City, I just felt all of my old crap like, gather around me again. And I was just like, I’m a no on this. New plan. Like what was different about being away? What’s different about being here? And it just it was it was a lot more fun. So yeah, if everyday is a vacation, what would I like to do?
Jennifer Urezzio
I love it.
Heather Clark
And then, you know, laying on the couch and reading the books, so
Jennifer Urezzio
yeah, let’s see, I don’t even do that on vacation. Like, you know, when I’m on vacation. I’m still there’s moments of, you know, when there’s moments of on the couch too, but I like to do things and go and explore. So, you know, it, it allows for this sense of discovery as well. I just remembered a new year’s resolution that I made, which I was going to try a new thing every week.
Jennifer Urezzio
And it worked up until quarantine.
Heather Clark
Gotta be more creative with the new things that’s and for someone. See, this is really interesting. So you’ve identified that you are a natural Explorer, and I know that you’ve Got a lot of warrior energy, your soul is a warrior soul, but like in a good way. So how, how would you would a person do that? Like how can I continue to explore while barely leaving my house?
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah I think it’s for me, it’s some internal questions, you know upping those questions. I think for me, it’s always been books. And I think it’s easier to explore now because we’re not rushing around so we allow the divine to drop something in our lab. Today I’m making sweet potato soup, which I’ve never made.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah, so that’s kind of all new. So, sometimes you need to kind of go out of the way to make it happen, but I think that if you set your mind to and habit chase You can make it happen.
Heather Clark
Beautiful. That’s absolutely beautiful.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yay.
Heather Clark
But jazz hands remember, because Roxy
Jennifer Urezzio
She’s live now from her crate near me sleeping. We’re kind of fighting at the moment. Fighting. Yeah.
Jennifer Urezzio
She’s a thief. She keeps stealing toys. And so I keep taking them away because then she goes through all the toys and one day so she’s mad at me. It’s really funny blue Heelers get really like they’ll kind of like they hold grudges. It’s actually quite funny.
Heather Clark
And I bet she can express her displeasure with a look.
Jennifer Urezzio
Oh my god. It’s it’s the puppy dog eyes, but there’s something around the mouth that says yeah, I can eat you When you sleep, so he cut so you know it’s it’s pretty interesting and I’m learning really just like I would learn with my own soul I’m learning all of her different ways of being and i think i think we think we know ourselves but when we are gone going having that conversation it you know, it’s amazed about how much you allow yourself to really witness and unfold. That’s new
Heather Clark
that’s beautiful dogs are such great teachers love this.
Jennifer Urezzio
Yeah, that’s why their god backwards. I finally get it. Yeah.
Heather Clark
Love this. So, thank you so much, Jennifer. Tell us where people can find you. Sure.
Jennifer Urezzio
Soulanguage.us that’s soullanguage.us
Heather Clark
Beautiful and I do highly encourage people reach out, as you can tell, she’s fabulous. And then the tools are deeply powerful. I really love how they’re simple. They’re straightforward. But as you begin to use them, you’re like, oh, holy crap, this is amazing. This is like, Oh, it’s unlocked so much. So I love it. And thank you very much. Thank you.